You’ve been messaging back and forth with this beautiful woman who you think may be the one, booked a flight ticket to Ukraine and are now pondering on when it is plausible to hint at moving things to the bedroom as you have a date with this dream girl. Not so fast there, let’s slow it down just a notch.


Sex is a very important part of a relationship, but when introducing it into one that hasn’t fully flowered just yet, it can be a very touchy thing for the ladies in question. It really isn’t something that should be brought up on the first date that you have with the lovely women you have been chatting with for the past few months. The best thing to do when meeting your possible future partner is to actually sit down and get to know the person you have been talking to. It is a time for the both of you to learn more about each other so that you can reflect on whether this is a match made in heaven, or not. Watch and learn her body language throughout your dates, paying careful attention to her verbal and non-verbal cues as that will indicate to you if and when she is ready to take the next step with you.

Don’t be overly worried if your intended woman isn’t overly touchy and affectionate with you on the first date. Often times she is just coy and wants to learn more about who you really are and find comfort in being with you before she takes that big step and before the relationship escalates into a more intimate one. Give both yourself and your lady time until both of you are confident in each other’s intentions and want to be with one another, because there is plenty of time for sex in the future if you both connect. Being able to make a sensible decision on whether there is both chemistry and compatibility is more important than giving yourself away to passion immediately.


A few more dates give you both the necessary time to be confident in each other’s intentions and decide if you want to be with one another. Men who show Ukrainian women that they are willing to wait until she is at ease with them and are not looking for sex right off the bat tells them that they are dealing with a man who is serious, with honest intentions and someone who genuinely cares about them, and not just their own desires. This attribute will leave these women grateful towards you and will allow for more positive interactions with the both of you in the future.

Ukrainian woman also tend to generally have a certain personal standard and criteria that their possible partner has to meet, so they will take their time to make sure you measure up for her before she is willing to have sex with you. If a man does not meet her standards, she will send out smoke signals very quickly and is unlikely to engage in sex with you. If you have been communicating with each other for quite some time, and upon meeting for the first time she appears unwelcoming and disinterested, not even letting you kiss her after a few dates, she likely is not that interested in you and does not want to further pursue the relationship.


It’s important to keep in mind that no relationship fits into one cookie cutter mould, and neither does any individual. Everything depends on the individuals in question, the specific circumstance as well as the situation. Everyone acts and reacts differently, and some may be comfortable with sex on the first date, but generally speaking, most Ukrainian girls are very cautious of a man pushing her towards something that she may feel she is not ready to do or is being pressurised into. This is due to the fact that this is an unfortunate common tactic that many Ukrainian men employ when taking their date out for a nice dinner and when they offer nice presents. They try to guilt-trip their dates into sleeping with them as a way to say ‘thank you’ for “indulging” them.


Maybe leave that gift you have been wanting to give her for another special moment if all works out, so as to not make her possibly weary of what you are expecting from her.


Although it isn’t unheard of good Ukrainian women wanting to take the next step on their first encounter with their foreign love interest, be very cautious of a woman who is constantly hinting and trying to get you to have sex after the date. There is an exception to every rule when it comes to relationships, but often women like these are just opportunists who are only looking to use you for money, and they will run you dry. A good woman takes her time to be sure of her man because she knows the material things are not going to keep a marriage intact, and that harmony in a relationship is the recipe to happiness for both herself, her future husband and her future family.


Give yourselves the time to explore each other’s personalities and who you are as individuals so you can slowly fall in love with one another. Time is crucial to the success of any relationship, and sex is not what bonds people together. It is the feelings and the wholehearted trust they have for one another. It’s for these reasons, it’s necessary to think clearly about your immediate sexual response, and to make sure you’re choosing a partner with whom success is possible, and commitment worthwhile. Like the old saying goes, “good things come to those who wait.”


  1. Athenian

    April 8, 2019 at 3:04 pm

    I agree and I have waited around
    30 – in my relationships to make sure for myself that I like the person and wish to pursue a further relationship.

  2. Nick.Carter

    April 23, 2019 at 6:41 am

    Thanks this is well written. I like the fact you are not pushing sex. Who wants a cheap tart for a wife?

    Any main that is not prepared to wait is not the right man to marry.

  3. SteveK

    June 5, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    I am concerned a woman I have met through a dating site might be a scam artist. I met her personally in December and again in February, we have been intimate. This isn’t a guarantee that she is not a scam artist. I’ve had these suspicions only recently when I found her on the dating sites at least six that I know are scan site – the pay as you go with credit type sites. We are in contact everyday she says she needs to fulfill her contract with the agency in September. I am confused common sense says one thing though we have spent much time together. She Ukrainian of course she lies))) the culture though I feel she hides to many things that are commonly shared.
    How do I have her checked out to verify if she is legitimate?

    • Elbert Wiebe

      February 11, 2021 at 2:25 am

      I was engaged for 3 + years Odessa woman. A 3rd party informed me summer 2020 she has man living in house. I immediately called her, she admitted, maybe 3-4 months man living in house. Of course I blew a gasket. Any man will! She denied sexual relationship. But NEVER, introduced man to me, or told me who is the man, she locks her bedroom door, has tv in her room and installed AC. I hired PI. No evidence of relationship found. But, SECRET, yes she kept, casted doubts. Don’t keep SECRETS.

  4. Geoff63

    December 22, 2019 at 11:59 am

    Women the world over are the same. Beware if she is not showing some sign of affection after 2nd date , youre being played for a free dinner

  5. Jeffrey Conner

    August 23, 2020 at 4:28 pm

    She should be doing 80% of the talking, laughing at your silly jokes, and playing with your hair on the first date. The signs of attraction are subtle.

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