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Drawn by the lure of Eastern European women’s femininity and traditional values, foreign men have been flocking Russia, Ukraine, Belarus and Moldova since the Soviet Union broke up in 1991. The big question is: are they finding their life partners, or are unrealistic age gap expectations robbing them of their dream and causing them to return home empty handed?

 If you just embarked on the online dating journey, and you really want to know how to win this rather challenging international dating game, you need to read up and learn as much as you can, especially on the controversial rather issue of age gaps. 

It is important to approach your dating journey understanding the fact and knowing the key factors for success. The facts tell us that making a wise, informed decision about an acceptable age difference will determine if you are successful in creating a successful marriage with a beautiful Slavic lady. Warren Buffet wisely said, “90% of your life’s happiness is determined by the women you marry, so choose carefully.”

A Big Age Gap was Not Part of Soviet Culture

A survey done in Moscow during the Soviet era, and also before the Soviet era, by government marriage registries shows that the typical age differences between spouses was between zero to fifteen years, with marriages at the high end of that range making up only six percent of first marriages.

In that era, these beautiful Slavic women were not allowed to marry foreigners. Women would marry as young as 15, with those marriages sometimes being arranged by their parents. The focus was on making a marriage that would last a lifetime because divorce back then garnered severe public shame. The largest age gap was around twenty years, and even those were rare.

As an interesting contrast, back then it was not unusual to see marriages where the husband was younger than their wife. Such marriages accounted for up to 18% of marriages, with the age difference being from one to 15 years.

Slavic men would go to war for a couple of years, usually about the age of 18, and public pressure pushed them to tie the knot quickly after they finished their military service, at around age 20.

So both genders married at a very young age and often with little or no age gap.

Later, loss of millions of Russian men in war, men found themselves with a plethora of choice when seeking to marry a beautiful Russian woman due to the resulting dramatic gender imbalance – women outnumbered men by over 10 million. This is still the case today, with official population statistics putting the percentages at 54% women and 46%forty-six men.

This gender imbalance has lasted for generations, resulting in a scarcity of quality bachelors and an over abundance of beautiful Ukrainian and Russian women, eager to get married and start a family. As a result, desperate Slavic girls seeking a husband have turned to Russian dating sites and marriage agencies to help them.

Russian and  Ukrainian Women Attracted to Mature, Financially Secure Foreign Men

Driven by the continued generational gender imbalance, combined with ease of access to Internet and social media, Slavic women are more aware of the differences between their Eastern European men and Western men. Many have made the choice to open up their horizons and search for a good man abroad, despairing of ever finding a good, family-oriented man in their own country. 

According to research, Slavic women prefer older men with an age gap, ranging from seven to 20 years. Although most Slavic girls consider and age gap of 15 to 20 years to be unacceptable, some Ukrainian and Russian women with traditional family values seeking a like-minded husband remain open to large age gap. Such women are attracted to an older man’s maturity and the financial security he provides. 

The Attraction of Foreign Men

Because of the gender imbalance, Slavic women work hard to always look their best. They take care of themselves so as to attract and hold onto a man. In contrast, with so many choices the average Eastern European man cares little about his appearance or maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Not so  fast ! There is still a whole lot to learn. Let’s check what could be different  between an older Slavic and an older foreign man. Most Eastern Europe men are not physically attractive, and they tend to age prematurely compared to their foreign counterparts.

Older men from Canada, USA and Western Europe are perceived by Slavic women as looking much younger than their age, being more energetic, being smarter and wiser, and being more willing to contribute to the success of a family or marriage. Ukrainian ladies find this very attractive. This is a big advantage for foreign men, and something that can provide additional confidence in your online dating with Ukrainian and Russian women.

It is important to also keep in mind that Russian and Ukrainian girls are very family oriented. A beautiful, attractive Slavic lady of any age, will appreciate an older man who respects who they are and their culture. The simple fact is that young Slavic women will say yes to even an older, mature man if he proves himself to be a gentleman and measures up to all their hopes. Most Ukrainian men fall far short in this area. 

Foreign men need to understand clearly that marriage is the ultimate goal of these beautiful Slavic women. Regardless of what the age gap may be, casual dating is usually not acceptable. Any beautiful women you meet, whether they are from Kiev, Odessa or Poland, have their minds wired to seek marriage and long-term relationships. This is a further advantage for foreign men since their Ukrainian counterparts are, unfortunately, usually not serious about marriage.

Is Age Gap Really an Issue of Mind Over Matter ?

Well if the two of you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. What really matters is 

● Are you compatible?

● Are you both happy with your age difference?

● Is your family accepting of the age gap, or are they at least understanding?

Some have said that, age is only a number! It is important to understand that every situation is different, and it is important to make an informed decisions.

The Age Gap Formula

Maurice Chevalier the French entertainer , singer and actor referenced a formula in 1931 that, in turn, is credited to French author Max O’Dell in his 1901 book on love. That formula says that an acceptable age gap is half your age plus seven.

(Age ÷ 2) + 7 = acceptable age gap 

It obviously applies to only to men, treating older women as less attractive or less desired. So, I consider it a double standard. 

Is it a rule of thumb though?

Well it is a  choice for you to make, but some still find it helpful in deciding whether to pursue a relationship with a big age difference. 

So , Where Do We Draw the Line?

For a 60 year old man to seek a 20 year old woman is simply unrealistic. Lines can be drawn anywhere as long as you don’t get married to a woman of the same age as your grandchild , for example. Staying in the same generation makes more sense and is advisable, because the two of you will have more in common. 

If you are looking for significantly younger ladies you may be setting the bar too high for yourself. Russian and Ukrainian women are known for being practical and looking for good husband material. That does not rule out large age differences, but it does make them more of a challenge. 

If you are 45 and below, you may still be able to succeed with a big age gap.

These beautiful Slavic women are at their most most attractive at the ages of 30 to 45. 

So, think and plan carefully, understanding the challenges when it comes to a big age gap.

I hope that this article helps you if you are looking for a serious relationship leading to a successful marriage with a Russian or Ukrainian woman.

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Age Difference Facts in Married Couples from  Ukraine and Russia 

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Drawn by the lure of Eastern European women’s femininity and traditional value, foreign men have been flooding Russia, Ukraine, Belarus and Moldova since the FSU broke up in 1991. The big question is, are they finding their life partners, or are unrealistic age gap expectations robbing them of their dreams and causing them to return home empty handed?

 If you just embarked on the online dating journey and you really want to know how to win in this rather challenging international dating game, it is advisable to read up and learn as much as you can, especially on the rather deceptive issue of age gaps. 

Facts will always be facts, even tough human nature is to rationalize and justify to feel better about what we want to believe instead. In the end, whether we like it or not, the facts tell us that making a wise, informed decision about acceptable age difference determines our future marital happiness or misery. As the greatest investor that has ever lived said, “90% of your life’s happiness is determined by the women you marry, so choose carefully.” Warren Buffet.

What the USSR Survey Tells Us

A survey done in Moscow by government marriage registries in the past centuries shows that age differences between spouses was between zero to fifteen years difference, with fifteen years making up only six percent of first marriages.

In that Era these beautiful Russian women were not allowed to marry outsiders and they would marry or have arranged marriages from age fifteen, with the largest age gap being around twenty years and most women got married only once in their lifetime because divorce back then garnered severe public shame.

An interesting contrast. Back then there were also marriages where husbands were younger than their wives, by as much as eighteen percent, with age differences from one to fifteen years.

Slavic men would go to war for a couple of years, from age eighteen and public pressure influenced them to tie the knot before or as soon as they returned, at around age twenty.

So both genders married  at a very young age and often with slim to no age gap.

Later, as a result of the loss of millions of many Russian men at war, men had a plethora of choice when seeking to marry a beautiful Russian woman due to the resulting dramatic gender imbalance – women outnumbered men by over 10 million. This is pretty much still the case today, with official populations stats being; fifty-four percent women and forty-six percent men.

As a result, this has created a generational gender imbalance phenomenon. The resulting scarcity of quality bachelors and over abundance of beautiful Ukrainian women and Russian women, who, are eager to get married and start a family, created an over supply of slavic girls that turned to Russian dating sites and marriage agencies to help them.

SOURCE : persee.fr  age difference between spouses on the Vykhino Estate (first marriages) Peasant marriage in nineteenth century Russia. 

Modern preferences of Russian and  Ukrainian Women

Driven by the continued generational gender imbalance, and ease of access to internet and social media, Slavic women have become more familiar today with the differences between their Eastern European men and Western men, and many have made the choice to open up their horizons and search for a good man abroad. 

According to research, Slavic women still prefer older men with an age gap of seven to twenty years. Although fifteen to twenty years is not acceptable for most Slavic girls today, considering big age gaps were the social norm just a generation ago, many with strong traditional family values remain open to large age gap marriages today. The primary reason sited by Ukrainian women is due to an older man’s maturity and the financial security he provides. 

Some foreign men who were successful  in a 2 year survey  that was conducted  between 2014 and 2016 were from  Canada ,USA, UK, Australia,  Italy, Netherlands, Austria, Germany, Belgium, South Africa , New Zealand , Spain , Turkey, just to give someone a lot of hope in this race. 

In a rush to put a ring on a Slavic woman’s finger? Can you jump the gun ?

Not so  fast ! There is still a whole lot to learn. Let’s check what could be different  between an older Slavic and an older foreign man. 

“Intellectually and emotionally younger ” is the label given to older men from Canada  , USA or Western Europe. It is something to take advantage of and be confident about , as you take on this online dating with the attractive women.

 Most Eastern Europe men are not physically attractive and they tend to age prematurely compared to their foreign counterparts. 

The latter look younger for their age and besides that and  being more energetic  , have greater wisdom and more brilliant ideas on family affairs , which Ukrainian ladies find very attractive. 

While holding on to that exciting advantage  , it is important to know another thing about Russian and Ukrainian girls , they are very family and culture oriented. Beautiful  , attractive and well groomed as they are at any age ,Russian ladies will appreciate an older man who respects who they are and what they believe in . You might think that this fact is far fetched , but , more than any disadvantage of large age differences that might arise , it has been proven that these young women will say yes to any mature man who holds himself up as a gentleman and measures up to their hopes. Most Ukrainian men have fallen short of this crucial expectation. 

Foreign men have to dive in with this fact in mind as well, that marriage is the ultimate goal , no matter what age gap you both settle on , casual dating is not acceptable. Any beautiful women you meet , whether they are from Kiev,  Poland or Odessa , their minds are traditionally wired for marriage and long-term relationships. This is a very good leverage since their Ukrainian men are unfortunately not serious about marriage.

Is age gap really an issue of mind over matter ?

Well if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter. What really matters is 

● Are you compatible?

● Are you both happy with your age difference?

● Is your family happy or at least do they understand?

Some would go ahead and say , age ain’t nothing but a number ! It is true that every scenario is different. Nevertheless  , one would rather have a bag full of facts to draw from and be ready to make some informed decisions , than fall in blindly.

Quote from  Mark Twain. Age is an issue of mind over matter if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter. 

You wanna know the age difference formula ?

How old is too old to date  Russian girls? 

 Maurice Chevalier the French entertainer , singer and actor referenced a formula in 1931 during an interview and it has spread like a wild fire.

It is said to be credited to French author Max O’Dell in his 1901 love manual.

An unofficial romance rule credited to a number of people after that, which is still mentioned to date , is kind of a double standard formula but who cares ! 

It is…half your age plus seven.

Age ÷ 2 + 7 = acceptable age gap 

It obviously  applies to men only  and circumscribes older women as less attractive or less desired, which is the reason why I call it double standard. 

Is it a rule of thumb though ?

Well it is a  choice to make but hey, some still find it helpful in paving their way on this kinda slopey hill of age differences. 

Source : Dictionary.com

So , where can we draw the line?

For a sixty year old to date a twenty year old woman would be unrealistic. Lines can be drawn anywhere as long as you don’t get married to a woman of the same age as your grandchild , for example  . Staying in the same generation makes more sense and is advisable. 

If you have interest in much younger ladies you may be setting  the bar too high for yourself. Russian and Ukrainian women are known for always  choosing the most suitable candidate and that does not exclude large age differences. 

If you are forty five and below, you may still be able to succeed  with big age gaps.

Thirty to forty five years are the most attractive ages for these beautiful women 

 It is therefore very crucial that you choose your moves with utmost care and wisdom when dating  , as far as age differences are concerned.

I hope that this article helps you if you are looking for a serious relationship leading to a successful marriage with a Russian or Ukrainian woman.