Sex and the Ukrainian Woman
Simple answer, not on. No. Don’t do it. What, have sex? Well, that’s another subject but what we’re saying no to here is talking about sex, especially in the initial stages. Within the safe confines of your own community and culture, do you come out and talk about sex with a relative stranger? No you don’t, normally anyway, and it’s no exception with Slavic women.
You meet online, she’s beautiful, you think she’s sexy, you’re confident in yourself and your perceived prowess because your chats are becoming more personal but again, hidden behind the safe confines of relative anonymity and distance, you should still NOT get intimate. Let’s be clear about that fact right here from the word go. Don’t do it.
My Profile and Sex
You might think it’s clever and amusing but if it isn’t rule number one of online dating between western men and Ukraine women, it should be – do NOT under any circumstances state, infer or hint of anything of a sexual nature in your online profile.
Avoid using any phrases or terms that could be inferred as being sexual, including:
- Sex;
- Intimacy, or intimate;
- Physical relationship;
- Massage (unless you are a Professional Masseuse);
- Simple terms such as hugging and kissing and anything that indicates physical contact.
You might be starting to think, well what I can I talk about? There’s a lot of things, but because of language and cultural differences, any indications of physical contact may simply be taken the wrong way. It does NOT mean that Ukraine women are not interested in sex, they just have a different approach to it, that’s all.
All women, including Ukrainian women, know that men are interested in hugs and kisses, holding hands, and yes, sex too. Well guess what? So are they. When you are communicating with Ukraine women, you need to be more subtle about it, that’s all. When everything is right, when the Ukrainian woman is comfortable in your presence, her own physical contact with YOU will leave no doubt where the relationship is going.
She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not
It may take a few dates, usually at least two or three before the woman is confident and relaxed enough to begin demonstrating her physical attraction. Before that time, you should always be calm and confident, especially if she is maintaining good eye contact with you and appears genuinely interested in what you are saying.
Doesn’t matter where the woman is from, if she is sitting there answering in monosyllabic grunts and affirmations while she is looking everywhere except at you, she is JUST NOT INTO YOU. Take the hint. Don’t let your male ego take over, be gracious that you’ve been given this opportunity to not waste any more of your and her (valuable) time.
Generally, Ukrainian women do not flirt in the way us western men know it, though the younger generation have learnt from greater western influences that are available to them. If she is polite and courteous and interested, you will have her attention, simple as that. The NEXT step is where it gets interesting.
Do you remember the first physical contact you shared with your last partner or partners? It’s usually memorable for one reason or another, from literally running into each other accidentally, or feeling the sparks and fireworks of true fairytale meetings. With a Ukraine women, it can come as a surprise.
You have her attention, she is laughing with you, she is attentive, then suddenly she will lean toward you and hold that position, which is not so obvious unless you are looking for it. If you do notice, now would be the WRONG time to act, because any action on your part different to what’s led up to this moment, may frighten her or at the very least, make her sit back away from you while she reconsiders her own actions. Don’t destroy her comfort zone and potentially ruin your chances with this girl.
Let her be the leader here, it is their natural disposition. When she leans toward you, it is a test for herself, a test of her confidence and of her attraction for you. She is still debating that point. She may lean in toward you and away several times before she acts, and at the most opportune time for her, she will reach out and touch you. It might be a brief touch of her knee or thigh on your leg, but usually, she will reach out with one hand and quickly touch your arm. It is highly unusual if she allows this first contact to linger.
What should you do now? It may seem difficult, but nothing. Acknowledge it to yourself by all means, but maintain your composure and wait. When she begins to do it regularly, THAT is her sign for you to act. If you are a bit slow to act, and let’s face it, some of us guys are, don’t stress too much about it but don’t just sit there like a dummy and do nothing either. Her intentions will become more obvious once you give it time and your act can be as simple as providing the same or similar contact or by actually inviting her closer. Nature has taken its course!
Once she is at this point, she will take any inaction from you as a negative, regardless of your conversation or smiling eyes she will see it as a rejection, she will lean back away from you and the night, and any chance you had with this lady, is over. Your choice.
Email, Letters, Messaging
Similarly to your profile, there should be no mention of anything of a sexual nature in any ongoing correspondence you have with a lady, unless you have already entered into a relationship with her of course. Before you’ve actually met, it would be considered simply creepy, to do so. Don’t do it, if you have any serious considerations about this lady, do not do it. And if SHE should introduce it, you can be fairly well assured that it is a scam, simple as that, because it is NOT usual for Ukrainian women to do such a thing, certainly not sincere, genuine women.
Sex Before Intimacy?
Generally, talking about sex before the actual act is a no-no. Talking about previous partners and experiences is an even BIGGER NO-NO. So don’t do it. You will only make her feel awkward and uncomfortable. Afterward though, well, two consenting adults in a physical relationship can just about discuss anything , right!
And Finally . . .
Sex and intimate talk of any kind should be completely avoided, especially in profiles or any correspondence prior to you meeting and entering a relationship with a Ukrainian woman. What happens next is all up to you, keep your eyes and ears open, and good luck!